tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post1171694107426078083..comments2023-09-19T05:21:10.007-07:00Comments on Ecce Fiat: When Sunday mass is hardAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00145429070443201781noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-90965149526956319892013-08-21T21:20:55.728-07:002013-08-21T21:20:55.728-07:00I understand all those feelings! Those are some go...I understand all those feelings! Those are some good practices I should try too. We try to sit as close to the front as possible, because then there are less big families in front of us.Mike Brummondhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15276797377377334510noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-51052273176022788092013-08-16T04:28:16.299-07:002013-08-16T04:28:16.299-07:00(I meant after mass is our only time to see certai...(I meant after mass is our only time to see certain friends, our church friends, who include our best man, several friends of 4+ years, etc)ecce fiatnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-53719407440654946982013-08-16T04:27:07.755-07:002013-08-16T04:27:07.755-07:00I know what you mean, and in theory I agree (about...I know what you mean, and in theory I agree (about going to another mass or not chatting with friends afterwards). And yes, on days like mother's day and father's day, we on purpose were out of town...holidays we're generally with family, so there are distractions...but this is something I really struggle with, 1) because I'm in the choir at church, which I love, and it's at *that* mass with all the kids; and 2) after mass is generally our only time to see friends. If we don't chat with them, I feel like I'm missing out, being left out of the social loop, etc. It's like a choice between two bad options =( Yes, there are certainly days when I just need to leave, and I know they understand...but other days when I make the effort, keeping in mind that these are friendships I cherish and we're not going to be in our reproductive years forever! =) <br /><br />I guess that's one thing I didn't realize about IF before going through it: it can be really isolating, precisely because it becomes hard to interact with other people with kids. Like tomorrow, I'm not going to a baby shower because I just don't think I can handle it. And I'm at peace with that. But on the other hand, I'm sad to miss out on seeing friends that I don't see often. So it's tough both ways.ecce fiatnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-35320020615405357632013-08-16T04:23:04.548-07:002013-08-16T04:23:04.548-07:00Yes, He's happy with "the lump"! Wha...Yes, He's happy with "the lump"! What a great description - I definitely feel like that sometimes. Almost like I'm staring down Jesus on the cross: "okay, I'm here. That's about all I got today."ecce fiatnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-18073939548042879042013-08-15T18:47:44.613-07:002013-08-15T18:47:44.613-07:00I wonder if going to the earlier mass - as Catholi...I wonder if going to the earlier mass - as Catholic Mutt suggested - would help. Or possibly the Saturday evening .... not so sure about that one but it could be worth a try. At least the social group would be different and maybe you could get away a bit more easily. <br /><br />You also need to respect your feelings and treasure and cherish yourself - not indulge, but do what you can to build your strength, courage and resilience - and that may not be chatting with super fertile friends every single week ?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-29364279231439191352013-08-15T07:01:20.415-07:002013-08-15T07:01:20.415-07:00I think with time mass does get easier. I was one ...I think with time mass does get easier. I was one of those women who just wouldn't go. It was just too painful and raw for me, but slowly I started to evolve and start going again. For me, when I accepted that we may have to build our family in a different way than I thought and I began to truly embrace that God wants what's best for us (Believing that he does love me), mass has gotten so much easier. I rarely find myself hurting when a baby cries or when I see a pregnant woman. This has taken a lot of time, a lot of prayer, and a lot of acceptance of our situation, but I do think it gets easier. Praying for you.Blessed Wifehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17133000334850365220noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-43623881132047761482013-08-15T06:09:32.185-07:002013-08-15T06:09:32.185-07:00I've gone through some times where Mass was ex...I've gone through some times where Mass was extremely hard, and I think you've come up with some good ways to get through some of it. Especially that last one. God is waiting to give us all that He is, and for us to give all that we are, including our sadness and devastation. I know that after I went through a time that Mass was heartbreaking, I went through a time that I had no feeling at all and I felt like a lump in the pew. But I realized that if all I had to offer was the lump, He'd gladly take it because it was what I had to give at the time. I also started going to the earlier Mass with the older people. There'd still be a few kids, but usually less.<br /><br />Praying for you!Catholic Mutthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10254315970336710941noreply@blogger.com