tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post7620282322761129202..comments2023-09-19T05:21:10.007-07:00Comments on Ecce Fiat: Another Lenten SnapshotAnonymoushttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00145429070443201781noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-12071577893635273512013-03-07T05:55:22.160-08:002013-03-07T05:55:22.160-08:00Yes, I've struggled with similar emotions. My...Yes, I've struggled with similar emotions. My husband reminded that we (just the two of us) are a family already. We just want to grow our family with children. And yes! It is exhausting to experience intense disappointment and sadness each month... it is like grieving the child you won't have each month. (That's what it feels like to me anyway.) And grieving is exhausting. I like Ania's idea of doing fun things together. Being Refinedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10424906158586985107noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-5669939758352104502013-03-06T09:28:29.757-08:002013-03-06T09:28:29.757-08:00It is so UNBELIEVABLY hard to not think about want...It is so UNBELIEVABLY hard to not think about wanting a baby when all the time you DO want a baby, but I understand being happy with just the two of you. I didn't put as much effort into being happy with just the two of us before we adopted Luke (I'm not a model Catholic!). I was bitter and moody and sort of depressed. It did help when I would do things as I wanted to, instead of "waiting until we have children." That made it better and made me happier as just the two of us. All in His Perfect Timinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00300978285191861049noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-18869149941615403092013-03-06T04:02:41.842-08:002013-03-06T04:02:41.842-08:00Thank you for your prayers, Katie, and I'm sor...Thank you for your prayers, Katie, and I'm sorry you're going thru a tough time too! I can relate to what you said about the wedding pictures - I've had that same thought exactly! ecce fiatnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-36239081210383009002013-03-06T03:58:21.352-08:002013-03-06T03:58:21.352-08:00So true :) my husband keeps me sane! He's an e...So true :) my husband keeps me sane! He's an eternal optimist which is so helpful when going thru IF.ecce fiatnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-39245216052115214472013-03-05T20:31:00.571-08:002013-03-05T20:31:00.571-08:00Focusing on what you do have makes all the differe...Focusing on what you do have makes all the difference. DM + AM https://www.blogger.com/profile/16375817644349023976noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-91241852195889427422013-03-05T06:53:07.715-08:002013-03-05T06:53:07.715-08:00The coping is hard, some days you do it well, othe...The coping is hard, some days you do it well, others not so much...<br /><br />I too try to focus on my husband and the gift he is. We eventually got to a point where we decided to actively enjoy each other. We did things we wouldn't do or would have a hard time doing with a baby. Took a trip to Florida. Looking back I'm glad we had that time together.Aniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13495635759197523482noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-24128981963263400132013-03-04T11:17:56.417-08:002013-03-04T11:17:56.417-08:00"No wonder I feel emotionally exhausted const..."No wonder I feel emotionally exhausted constantly. No wonder I find myself placing barriers in my heart against thoughts of pregnancy and babies. No wonder I quickly delete birth announcement emails. And the thing that scares me is that I just don't know how much longer this roller coaster of emotions is going to last."<br /><br />Yes, yes, and yes. Wow, its a good thing I don't have an IF blog because I would essentially say all the things you say, except that you say them much better. We are in such a similar place, I think. I have found myself lately looking at our wedding pictures on the wall and feeling so sad because of how happily innocent of all this we were on that day. Last night I suddenly burst into tears when Chuck suggested we ask his sister-in-law to send something in her stash of knitted projects to give to our friends who just had twins (I may be a little terrified that she's going to enter a cloistered convent--summer 2014--before she can knit something specifically for our baby and meet our baby...)<br /><br />Thanks for this post, and for your insight. I'm going to try to start praying specifically every day for a better appreciation of my husband, of marriage, and of where I am right now. I'll pray for you too!<br />Katiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06914343351803930748noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1354490057851633467.post-16411251730434200452013-03-04T09:02:57.977-08:002013-03-04T09:02:57.977-08:00Oh hon. no advice here but I can so relate to your...Oh hon. no advice here but I can so relate to your post. I know the thought of "I want a baby" but we often forget our husbands in all this. They process it differently than us but they are going through IF just as much as we are. Our DHs are such a blessing! Kathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13670331855264293102noreply@blogger.com