Saturday, July 19, 2014

What Song(s) Helps you Get Through Infertility?

Mr. M here.

Songs. We all love them. They move us to joy. They console us. They speak directly to our heart. They can even move us to prayer and a deeper contemplation on many things. Many a night I have sat up listening to music to help me through various situations in life. Last night was one of those nights. Just praying and thinking about the cross of infertility. So I turned on a few songs that helped ease the pain and gave me some reflection. I will share them below along with my very subjective commentary. No effort was made to look up the real meaning behind the song. But this made me think to ask you - what songs help you cope with infertility? Please share them in the comments below.

Here is my current list and why:

Mumford and Sons, After the Storm

The lyrics are so powerful and definitely applies to any struggle: Night has always pushed up day / You must know life to see decay / But I won't rot, I won't rot / Not this mind and not this heart / I won't rot   . . . then the chorus: And there will come a time, you'll see, with no more tears / And love will not break your heart, but dismiss your fears / Get over your hill and see what you find there / With grace in your heart and flowers in your hair

Mumford and Sons, Awake My Soul

Love the lyrics to this song. These lines seem like my prayer on many nights struggling with infertility: Awake My Soul/ For You Were Made to Meet your Maker

Mumford and Sons, The Cave

Do you see a pattern here? What can I say, I really like this band. It is hard to limit it to three songs. Another great song with good lyrics. These lines resonate with me: But I will hold on hope / And I won't let you choke / On the noose around your neck / And I'll find strength in pain / And I will change my ways / I'll know my name as it's called again

I think of the noose as infertility. Clearly the song is not discussing infertility but this is what I think of when I hear this line, which I think is vague enough to cover all sorts of struggles. Also, I love the line "I'll find strength in pain". Amen. Further, this line resonated for religious reasons "I'll know my name as it's called again." I think of this as referring to Christ calling our name at Baptism. Here is our hope to get the noose off our necks. Of course, I have no idea what the songwriter was going for in these lines, but this is what I think when I hear it.

Eli Young Band, Keep on Dreamin' Even if It Breaks Your Heart

I love the Tom Petty sound and explicit tribute in this song. While the lyrics refer to a kid dreaming to be a big rockstar, the chorus applies to any dream. Here I think of our dream of having a child. No, I won't give that dream up even if it does break my heart.

Nickle Creek, House of Tom Bombadil

Great feel good song. Of course, the fact it recalls Lord of the Rings helps too. Probably could have put here Nickle Creek's song Ode to Butterfly or The Smoothie Song. In my opinion, their best songs are instrumentals.

Don Ross, Klimbim

Peaceful. Mellow. Joyful. I love listening to this instrumental song.

That's all for now! I could have added many more but these are my current favorites.


  1. Two tunes I've really been digging lately (and can only think of IF when I hear them now) are:
    JJ Heller, Your Hands
    Matt Maher, You Were on the Cross

    And two instrumental songs I really love and could listen to on repeat:
    Andrew Bird, Beyond the Valley of the Three While Horses
    Vaughan Williams, Fantasia on a Theme of Thomas Tallis

    Love all of your tunes too! Listening to a few of them now. I especially love Mumford and Sons. I agree, it's hard to just pick a few favorites from them!

  2. Thanks so much for sharing Mr. M. Those Mumford and Son's songs sound really meaningful and relevant. I will have to give them a listen. My favorite band in all of this has been Tenth Avenue North, especially their song "Worn"

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